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Something to Consider
An Answered Prayer
By Deborah A. Sanders
During May and June I had been praying – asking God to help me meet St. Luke’s UMC members I’d never met before. At 64 years of age I know God answers prayers as he knows best when the time is just right.
On May 31, 2017, Kathy McAllen, came to visit me at Harborview Nursing Home/Rehab Center where I live. She told me about Pastor Jim christening 6-month old Olivia Valdes on May 28. Kathy went on to explain how Jim held Olivia up high so the congregation could view the cutest baby Kathy had ever seen. She further stated how Jim took Olivia up and down the aisles so people could enjoy a close view of such a darling baby. After Kathy left, I thought about a brand new boxed collector’s baby spoon I had. Then I thought what a wonderful gift it would make for Olivia.
I called Vickey Hobbs at church and asked for Lewis and Ofelia’s name. I then proceeded to leave a message on Lewis’ cell phone. I left personal information about myself. I further explained I had a gift for Olivia. Did he, his wife and brother (and of course Olivia) want to come see me and get the gift? Or did they want me to ask Kathy to bring it to them at church? A few days later Lewis returned my phone call saying they would come visit me and get the gift.
I am so blessed! Their visit made “this ole lady” proud to be a loved member of St. Luke’s.
The third quarter Forward in Faith newsletter is here.
Inside you will find the updates of what’s moving forward in faith.
TEN REASONS YOUR CHURCH ISN’T GROWING (OR GROWING AS QUICKLY AS YOU’D LIKE)
What follows is a list of ten things that might be holding your church back from realizing the potential of its mission. The points that follow are, frankly, a bit blunt as well as short. But you’ll figure out fairly quickly which apply and which don’t. While we’re often the last to see what so many others see, once someone names it, we’re free to deal with it. In fact, among those who take it seriously and act, progress often ensues.
1. You’re in conflict.
Ever been in someone’s home as a guest only to have your hosts start to argue with each other? It doesn’t happen that often, but the few times it’s happened when I’ve been around have made me want to run out the door. If you’re constantly bickering and arguing, why would any new people stay? It’s not that Christians shouldn’t have conflict, but we should be the best in the world at handling it. The New Testament is a virtual manual of conflict resolution, but so many of us prefer gossip, nonconfrontation, and dealing with anyone but the party involved. How conflicted is your church – honestly? As long as you’re conflicted, you’ll have difficulty growing. Growing churches handle conflict directly, biblically, humbly, and healthily.
2. You’re more in love with the past than you are with the future.
This can be true of churches that are in love with tradition and churches that have had some amazing days recently. When leaders are more in love with the past than they are with the future, the end is near.
Many churches have frozen in their favorite era. Walk into some churches and it feels like 1949, 1970, 1996, or even 2005. The songs are dated, as is the approach. It’s as if you’ve unearthed a time capsule. If your church is a museum of 1950 or even 2012, the likelihood of reaching the next generation diminishes with every passing day.
3. You’re not that awesome to be around
Fake. Judgmental. Hypocritical. Angry. Narrow. Unthinking. Unkind. Those are adjectives often used to describe Christians, and sometimes they have their basis in truth.
Alternatively, we all know certain people who are energizing to be around. You feel better than when you came, simply because you were in their presence. Unfortunately, not enough Christians today fit that description. Jesus was mesmerizing. Paul caused conflict for sure, but he had many deep relationships and incredible influence. The early church was known for compassion and generosity.
If people truly don’t want to be around you, don’t let the reason be because you haven’t let Christ reshape your character or social skills.
4. You’re focused on yourself.
Too many churches are focused on their wants, preferences, and perceived needs. They are self-focused organizations filled with self-focused people. It should be no surprise that outsiders never feel welcomed, valued, or included. Sadly, if a person is self-focused, we call him or her selfish. If a church is self-focused, we call it normal.
If you want to reach people, however, you simply can’t be self-focused. After all, a life devoted to self ultimately leaves you alone.
5. You think culture is the enemy.
If all you ever are is angry at the culture around you, how are you going to reach people in that culture? Christians who consistently expect non-Christians to act like Christians baffle me. If you treat your unchurched neighbor like an enemy, why would he ever want to be your friend? It is extremely difficult to impact people you don’t actually like.
6. You’re afraid to risk what is for the sake of what might be.
Let’s face it: at least your church has something going for it. You’re paying the bills. You have more people in your church than the churches around you that have closed. In fact, you can likely point to some programs in your church you might call a success, even if the success is only moderate. Which is exactly why you’re struggling with the fear that virtually all of us struggle with: you’re afraid to risk what is for the sake of what might be. That only gets worse, by the way, the more successful you become. The greatest enemy of your future success is your current success.
When you’re perpetually afraid to risk what is for the sake of what might be, you may as well cue the funeral music now.
7. You can’t make a decision.
Governance is a silent killer in today’s churches. When your decision making is rooted in complex bureaucracy or congregational approval for every major change, it makes decision making difficult and courageous change almost impossible. Effective churches develop governance that
– Is nimble;
– Is aligned around a common missions, vision, and strategy;
– Trusts staff to accomplish the mission; and
– Has minimal congregational involvement in decision making.
While that might be a surprise to some church leaders (perhaps even heresy to others), too-heavy, interventionists boards and committees don’t scale and won’t allow staff leaders to be as agile as they need to be to accomplish what they must accomplish. Your governance might be killing you. And if it takes you five layers of meetings to even decide whether that’s the case, you have a very serious problem indeed.
- You talk more than you act.
Most church leaders love to think and love to debate issues, which is great. Thoughtful leaders do that. But effective leaders add one more component. They act.
Most church leaders I know (staff and boards) overthink and underact. If you acted on even a few more of your good ideas, you could possibly be twice as effective in a very short time frame. A B-plus plan brilliantly executed beats an A-plus plan that never gets implemented, every single time.
- You don’t think there’s anything wrong with your church.
I still run into a surprising number of leaders and church members who love their church but can’t figure out why no one else does. What are other people saying that you’re missing? Church leaders who think there’s nothing wrong are on their way to soon having much more to lead than a stalled -out club for the already convinced.
- You’re more focused on growth than you are on God.
Some leaders get so jacked up about growth that they forget it’s about God and his mission. This is a danger every motivated leader needs to keep in mind. We’re leading people to Jesus, not to ourselves or to our awesome church. Keeping the focus on Christ ensures that genuine life change happens and lasts.
Okay, so maybe this list stings a bit. Acknowledging the truth isn’t easy for anyone. But I think being honest with yourself is the first step toward lasting change. If you’re honest about where your church falls within these reasons, you’ll be primed to make a meaningful change.
Having read the reasons, what reasons are true for St. Luke’s? What role do you currently play? How can you make changes individually, in a committee, or as a leader to mitigate some of these reasons?
As always, please continue to be in prayer as St. Luke’s grapples with the reality facing churches today. Pray for creativity and courage to step out in faith. Pray for God to take aware our fears. Pray for humility, grace, and love in dealing with differing opinions. Pray that our St. Luke’s family fully understands that we’re called to share the love of Jesus with the world, not focus on ourselves.
If you’d like to read more from Lasting Impact – 7 Powerful Conversations That Will Help Your Church Grow by Carey Nieuwhof, please contact a member of Forward in Faith and we’d be more than happy to loan you a copy.
For more information on the Forward in Faith initiative contact Megan Warren – email@example.com
Forward in Faith Team
The Forward in Faith team wants to make every effort to communicate frequently with our Church family. Look for articles in the Epistle, announcements, quarterly newsletters, Church Council reports, or just talk to us in person.
At this time, we’ve had two newsletters published in the Epistle: January 23 and April 3. You may link to the most recent one above.
Should you have any questions or ideas for Forward in Faith, please feel free to contact one of the members. The members include the following:
Megan Warren – Director of Community Connections
Although the above people meet monthly to discuss moving forward, St. Luke’s – the entire church – is a part of this endeavor. Opinions, feedback, ideas, solutions, prayers from everyone make this committee and the work we are called to do, the best it can be. We all want to see St. Luke’s grow and remain viable in the future and that must include fresh ideas, renewed passions, growing pains, and YOU. We’re thankful for your involvement and your love for St. Luke’s.
Continue to pray constantly for St. Luke’s to be a place where our lives and our community will be transformed. Consistently pray for God to help us carry out the Great Commission and to help people know Christ.